Marriages are made in heaven, they say. Although it may be or may not be so, making a married life happy is in the hands of the couple themselves.
Happiness in a married life cannot be bought or sought somewhere else; but it all depends on how the couple take their married life along the way.
I would like to briefly just mention the key ways that are really simple that lead to a happy married life. However, these tips will stay simple and possible only if you think they are, and if you really WANT a happy married life.
Let’s dive right in!
Take the lead
Ask to yourself what you could do to keep your family environment happy and peaceful. The answer to this question will definitely differ from family to family and couples as well.
But if you could take the lead and do whatever you can to create a happy married life, everything starts right from there and there will be a smooth progress in your married life.
Instead of waiting for your partner to sort things out or expecting him/her to make you happy, why not do it yourself?
This is very close to what I said above. Be a giver in your married relationship. Always be the first to do things that would please or make your spouse happy, rather than expecting from him/her.
If you find out that there is an issue that is disturbing your relationship, see what you can compromise to bring happiness for both of you.
Give whatever you can. It could be your comfort, your ego, your pride, your possession, just give whatever is needed to strengthen your relationship.
This does not mean that you have to lose your originality and keep on compromising. But this is one of the best ways to express your love for your partner.
Most issues that destroy happiness in a relationship come from misunderstanding, improper communication and hence arguments.
Be a good listener. Always be the first to listen to your spouse, before you start to put forth your view point on anything.
This will avoid most of the arguments and will lead to a better understanding between you and your partner.
Be an effective communicator
This is indeed different from point listening. It is not only important that you listen to your partner, but it is also equally important to communicate in a way that your message can be correctly understood by your spouse.
There is no need for long boring sentences to be clear; a short sentence to the point will make the conversation effective.
Also avoid vague and indirect sentences.
Don’t expect your spouse to be perfect
Your spouse is not an ideal creation of God and all human beings indeed have imperfections. Don’t put up your expectations straight on your spouse.
If you think about expecting perfect stuff from your spouse always, then ask yourself if you are are perfect. See how much perfect stuff you give out.
Everybody has their own plus and minus. Be realistic in whatever you expect from your spouse.
Always avoid arguments
Arguments don’t bring in anything useful to your married life; rather they make you guys feel apart.
In addition, you cannot ever solve a problem by arguing on it (ya trust me on this one!).
Choose a hobby in common and spend at least few hours a week (preferably on a weekend) together in that hobby.
Hobbies can refresh your married life and can improve your understanding of each other.
Cooking (don’t choose this as a hobby!) together has many advantages. You reveal to your spouse that you are helpful, and at the same time you can have fun in trying new dishes.
There will be intimate moments while you cook together and, don’t remember to laugh at your dish if it tastes like hell.
Always look for opportunities to appreciate your spouse. Appreciation does wonders and helps to build up on your spouse’s self confidence.
Do nifty things often to impress and surprise your partner. You can either choose to do this in an expensive or cost effective way; I mean the choice is yours. Remember though, the price does not matter.
You can choose to leave cards in unexpected places in your house, leave a red rose in the bed with a note; post a “Miss You” card addressed to your spouse’s office, the possibilities are endless.
Relish every moment together. Be romantic and enjoy your time together.
Last, but not the least, reveal your love for your spouse. It can be the words “I Love You” or any kind of creative stuff (like holding hands, a hug, a kiss and so on), but just keep saying. The more you say the more it grows.