Is there anything that can be called as a flawless relationship? Is there a relationship where the couple are 100% happy all the time with no regrets whatsoever? It is my greatest wish that I knew one magic formula to make relationships work 100%.
But there is no such magic formula and that is the sad truth we have to accept. Don’t get me wrong! I am not saying that there isn’t such a thing called a happy relationship. I am saying that there isn’t such a thing called a 100% happy and satisfied relationship. I am just like you; I would always want that break up of relationships be eradicated from any part of the world!
Even though there is no magic formula to make our relationships perfect and flawless, there is one bit of hope. All of us can learn from others and learn from our own experiences (this works not just for relationships but for almost everything!).
So we can simply use our common sense to see what works for us and what doesn’t. This way we can improvise on making our relationships flawless. Now as you are reading this blog about relationships, you most probably will know all the conventional rules to make a relationship work; some of which are, spending time together, be intimate, respect each others feelings, speak out and so on.
But even after knowing these rules, we all step into pitfalls and learn everyday. So I thought that rather giving you advice on making it work, let me tell you the important factors that ruin your relationship.
Ego
This is one of the most popular reasons behind divorce. I am not going to give advice on how to get rid of ego, because I guess, if you know that ego is one of the most important causes for relationship break downs, then you can choose to have it or not.
Anyway a little tip: Try to always give in a relationship rather than expecting. Give your first apology, give your forgiveness, give your time, be the first to give anything. Try and tell me if this doesn’t work.
Being so unrealistic
The phrase explains it all. Nobody is perfect in this world including you and your partner. Expecting your partner to be always at your service, ruin your relationship at a faster rate.
Unrealistic expectations lead to disappointment and frustration, even if we do communicate these expectations. If you don’t want to ruin your relationship, don’t expect anything, be plain. Don’t force or beg your partner to make compromises.
Even if your partner agrees to make some compromises in the beginning, he/she can’t be making compromises forever. So it is better to stop expecting anything and let your partner be himself/herself.
Internet
This may sound unrealistic, but yes, a substantial percentage of relationships are ruined because of the internet. First, most people get addicted to it and give no time or their part to relationship. This in due course will develop a rotten inside of your relationship.
Second, internet is a rich source of a connection provider and not all connections are genuine. Internet offers a wide range of opportunities to be dishonest with your partner. I am not saying that everyone will go for it, but everyone is for sure tempted to develop illegal affairs online.
Putting your partner down in front of others
This one is a very sensitive issue because, so far you have been dealing with yourselves, but now it begins to show up. You declare to the public that you are in a ruined relationship. Moreover you emphasize to your partner that you no longer are happy in this relationship and/or no longer want this relationship!
Even if things don’t go to this extreme level, your partner will not be happy to learn that you are just telling everybody what you are not supposed to tell. Even though your partner is having a trait that you cannot tolerate, you have to discuss it in private, but should not tease or bully your partner for it in front of others. A healthy relationship is a two way street but a ruined relationship is one way.
You have the power to change that, but you must take the power in your own hands. Wait for no one and nothing. Have more to say? Don’t hesitate to share here!
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This is what I was looking for. Being in a relationship is never been that easy, and I’m sick out of it. hoping that this method can be effective.
Being in a relationship is never easy, Tracy. Well said!
You are right Jane. that is why we girls want to have space in our relationship so that gentleman will also know that we have feelings and sometimes we are hurt!
Great post. Relationships take work. They can get very difficult and there are easy ways you can work things out. Understanding, communication and commitment all have a big impact on how a relationships goes.
relationship is as complex and complicated as how human brains work. especially if you got your partner through online dating site, he/she may dump you anytime he/she wishes.