Long Distance Relationship: 5 Tips To Make It Happy And Healthy

long distance relationship

It is no secret that distance is one of the most difficult things for any relationship to overcome. The most common advice given to people planning on attempting a distance relationship is to give up before even trying.

While it's true that most long distance relationships don't end up working out, it's not impossible. Here are 5 ways to make a long distance relationship a little more bearable.

Have A Clear Plan For Your Next Meeting

One of the things that make the distance so hard to deal with is the hopelessness. When your unable to see the person you love for any extended period it's easy to start to feel like you will never see them again.

Having a clear defined time for your next meeting gives you both something to look forward to and helps a lot when things are especially hard. The more concrete and detailed the planed meeting the better.

Find A Way To Keep Intimacy Alive

Distance doesn't change the needs of either person in the relationship. The foundation of any good relationship is intimacy and that doesn't just mean sex. There are a number of things that can be done to maintain a feeling of closeness even from a far.

A good example is to set up nightly talks on the phone where you share thoughts, feelings and details of the day. Knowing that your voice is last they hear every night before they drift to sleep can be one of the most intimate feelings in the world.

Honesty and Avoiding Any Doubt

Another reason long distance relationships are so difficult is trust. It's easy to say you trust someone, but when you're far away and all you have to go on is his or her word it's much more difficult. In this situation more than any other it's positively vital that you are 100% honest about everything. Chances are you are both going to make mistakes. Talking about them and not covering them up is the only possible way for this sort of relationship to work. The moment any doubt is expressed it's extremely hard or even impossible to get back to a place of trust.

Spend Plenty of Time Together

Just because you're far away from each other, doesn't mean you should spend all of your time apart. With the help of cell phones, it's easy to stay connected to each other and talk often even on the go. Another great resource to ease the pain of a long distance relationship is Skype. Skype allows the two of you to see and talk to each other face to face. All that's required for Skype is an Internet connection and a computer. It doesn't even cost you a penny.

Do More Than Just "Talk"

No matter how much you enjoy talking to someone, there comes a point when conversations start to get a little stale. Planning activities to do together on the phone or on the Internet is a great way to enjoy each other's company without getting bored. The easiest example of something like this is to watch a movie together while on Skype. Calling the other person on Skype and then watching the same TV program or a movie on HBO is fun, easy and most importantly breaks up the monotony. Well, there are countless ways to make it work. It all depends on your perspective. Maria Rainier is a freelance writer and blog junkie. She is currently a resident blogger at First in Education where she’s written on online adult education programs along with optometry jobs. In her spare time, she enjoys yoga, playing piano, and working with origami.
  1. TracyAnn0312

    Well the tips are very great. Even you are far to each other, it is very important that you have enough time to communicate to each other. I love the ideas you have shared.

  2. Joy

    I’ve never been a fan of long distance relationships but when the time comes, you’d just have to. For the sake of the one you love. Thank you for sharing these tips, it’s sure to help.

  3. Veronica

    Should’ve read this months ago when my relationship was on the rocks. Oh well, too late for that. It’s good to know that there are information like this which can really help out in times of need.

  4. Emilia

    I’m always scared of these long distance relationships. I’m definitely not one of those girls who can patiently wait around but it really depends I guess.

  5. Calra

    I’m scared of long distance relationships. It’s not something I’d want to follow through with but in the event I don’t have a choice but to fold I’ll definitely take this into consideration. Thanks for your advice.

  6. Aayna

    Hi Jane,
    These are great tips for keeping the fire alive in a long distance relationship. What matter is the love and honesty, if these two factors are taken seriously, long distance is never a problem. Both partners should maintain the trust factor, and never play dirty on each other. A sense of security plays a crucial role in such relationships. Thanks for sharing the tips.

  7. Fatima

    Long distance relationships require a little extra effort than close distance ones. You have highlighted practical tips for keeping a long distance relationship alive. Great share.

  8. Maria Pavel

    Distance kills many of the most intimate and passionate relationships in the world, and what I have said is from a personal experience. Apart from that, you need to be innovative, surprising and should keep doing new things in order to make things work.

    • Maria Rainier

      Hi Maria! I think you make a good point – when far a part, keeping things new and being innovative in the relationship is even more important than normal when there’s distance in the relationship.

    • Benny

      I’m in a long distance relationship now. I live in Florida and my fiance lives in Taiwan. 12 hour time difference.

      It’s harder on her. She has her good weeks then he really bad days when she gets tired of waiting.

      We use Skype a ton. We text message a lot and if you have an iPhone get a program called Whatsapp. You can send free text messages if both are using the app. Amazing program. I paid 99 cents and I would pay 9.99.

      We definitely trust each other. That helps so much.

      Sending a hand written letter or a card is a nice touch as well.

      • Maria Rainier

        Isn’t Skype amazing? In a way it seems to change the whole game when it comes to long distance relationships. For the first time ever, it’s possible to see your lover far away in real time.

        Thanks for sharing about your personal LD relationship!

  9. Alexis

    Long distance is indeed a huge setback for a relationship.Your tips are great but from my experience there is a limit to what each couple can cope with after which It will crucial to live close to each other if the relation is to survive.

    • Maria Rainier

      Yes, I think eventually it gets to the point where there has to be a change from long distance to being local.

  10. Andrew Walker

    Right now I am struggling with a long distance relationship. It’s pretty tough at first but I think I still can handle it. Skype is very helpful, indeed. Great tips you got here. Not just “talk”. I definitely agree with you.

    • Maria Rainier

      Thanks for sharing about your personal LD relationship Andrew! I see you also mentioned Skype. It really does make a huge difference, doesn’t it?

  11. Dr. Bob

    Hi Jane,

    I’ve done the long distance relatinship thing a few times in my life; sadly they never worked out. But that was before technology has made it so much easier to stay connected and feel connected.

    I love your idea of watching a TV show or movie together while on Skype. It’s the small things in a relationship that are missed the most and end up costing the relationship if they are not attended to.

    Your tips go a long way to helping those cope with long distance in a relationship.

    Thanks for sharing them.

    • Maria Rainier

      Hi Bob! I’m glad you enjoyed these tips on long distance relationships. Yes I think there’s something very sweet about being able to watch a program or participate in something together in real time thanks to Skype!

      I would not suggest, however, trying to play a card game over Skype. ;)

  12. Antonia

    From my experience, the biggest problem with long distance relationships is the lack of trust. Jealousy is normal in a relationship, and a certain control is needed. But when you’re hundreds of miles away from your loved one, you have zero control over what he does and where he goes, you know nothing of his daily activity and can’t help but wonder.
    Braver men have fallen from this… :)

    • Maria Rainier

      Hi Antonia! Ah, yes – thank you so much for mentioning this. Any ideas on dealing with jealously in a LD relationship?

      • Antonia

        Unfortunately, i believe it can’t be dealt with :(
        Some relationships will get over it based on trust, some won’t. It’s the way life goes.

  13. john

    yea nice info man i like it really well done..

  14. Gregory McGuire

    Reminds me of when I was in the US Army. Guys were getting Dear John letters from their wives and girlfriends all the time. A little distance for a short while might be healthy, but long distance for a long time is just plain tough.

    • Maria Rainier

      Indeed, it is tough. :/ Thanks for sharing your personal experience with LD relationships.

  15. waterpearls

    Hi Maria,
    It is a very nice and informative post.Thanks for sharing 5 tips.these tips are helpful for many readers.

  16. Tisha

    Hi Maria,

    All of the points you made will make a long distance relationship work. Also, I think another way for a log distance relationship to work is for both parties to want to make it work. It can’t be a one way deal. That person will eventually get fed up and call off the relationship.


  17. Kesha

    Communication, keeping it honest, and being spontaneous and creative are the skills that a couple needs in order to survive. Though I must say that I had been in a long distance relationships that lasted long than a non long distance one! :-)

    But you’re right I think people give up quickly and that’s because they don’t want to do any work (those skills I listed above)!


  18. Jon

    When I was trying the long-distance thing, tools like Skype weren’t available. We didn’t have smartphones. So, it’s been a while since I’ve gone this route but man has technology made things a whole lot easier.

    First and foremost you have to assess how dedicated you are to make it work. If you both aren’t on fire trying to see it through…well, it’s going to be a tough road.

  19. Adrian

    Long distance relationship is very hard to maintain but a promising one because once the couple survives all the trials, everything will be easy when they’re actually together. Why? It’s because they’ve started their relationship on the toughest situation. Also, couples must make sure that they are still happy spending time with each other, otherwise, they will lose connection (feelings) from each other.

  20. Easther

    I have been in the long distance relation for years..Long distance relationship is very hard to maintain , but Communication, keeping it honest brings our relationship stronger..

  21. Dean

    You are providing good tips I love this
    Thank you for sharing

  22. Deliana Martinez

    I am in a long distance relationship right now and sometimes it’s hard because I feel like I’m trying to get things going. My boyfriend is a college student. Of course we Skype twice a week or three times. However, I really would like to know more about the fun things we can do while webcamming. I’m open to any suggestion really.

  23. Ashis

    Nice article .Long distance relations are really something hard to handle. In this relationship communication is the only way to success.

  24. Lee

    Hi Jane
    I know a couple of people who have got in to a long distance relationship for some reason or another. Unfortunately they have never lasted maybe they should of read your blog

    Great tips lee

  25. James Conner

    When the two person are honestly in love with each other, no situation can ever break them apart. I have not tried a long distance relationship yet. I bet that is difficult so thank you for sharing these wonderful insights. I’m looking forward to falling in love again soon and I am very much hoping that it will work out this time.

  26. Rishabh Misra

    Hi jane
    Lovely Article i like to read this nice well still i am not engage any relationship but in this post some nice points to make long relationship with your partner if you implement honesty.

  27. Alexis Marlons

    I haven’t tried being in a long distance relationship and I don’t know if I could handle it. But these advice are really helpful.

  28. Dhruv Bhagat

    No matter, how long distance relationship you are in! There are lots of chances that you’ll gonna break up with your partner just because you can’t meet!

    Talking to each other via webcam is a good idea but you’ll surely end up talking to each other when you know that you can’t meet..

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