Long distance relationship is a challenge and is not like a normal relationship. Read my previous posts on long distance relationships here. A long distance relationship always takes more time and energy to maintain.
Maintaining a long distance relationship without being broken and to cope with all the emotional aspects of it is a challenge. A tougher challenge is to maintain self happiness while in a long distance relationship. Since emotional bombardments are overwhelming in a relationship at a distance and since the chances that you can always share things with your partner are less, losing self happiness will be common.
In short, there are quite a lot more problems in a long distance relationship than in a relationship with proximity. Here are some things that could help you maintain your own happiness whilst in a long distance relationship.
Effective communication in a long distance relationship:
As I have already discussed about it, I will not rewrite it here. You can read my post:
How To Avoid Relationship Issues Using Effective Communication
Communication, as we all know, plays a major role in maintaining your self happiness because ineffective communication can create a lot of problems, leading to emotional disaster. Further, issues arising out of ineffective communication always create an avalanche of effects stealing self peace and happiness.
Capture and share:
Make it a point to capture all your happy moments and share them with your partner. For instance you can take pictures when you are on a hiking trip with your friends and share them with your partner.
Happiness gets multiplied when shared and you also can update your partner on your day to day events. This will override the feel of physical distance. Furthermore you will indirectly start to find interesting and exciting stuff to share with your partner, thereby having fun for yourself and provide the same to your partner as well.
You will be happy when you do something exciting yourself and you can spend some time talking about the fun and excitement at those events while you are up on a chat.
Never look for temporary replacement:
There may be a tendency for you to seek a friend or someone more intimate to share your thoughts and emotions. You may find this relationship soothing at the beginning since this new relationship replaces the one at a long distance and hence seems to be better in all sense, say being together, having fun, emotional support and so on.
But things won’t be straight and you put your long distance relationship at risk, not to mention it is certain that your long distance relationship will fall apart. The irony is that you seek a temporary placement for your happiness but this will be the first thing that steals your happiness.
Plan a meeting:
This will be a happiness booster. Always see if a meeting can be arranged if time and funds permit. You will be happy both talking about it and anticipating it. It will also be a nourisher to your long distance relationship.
Make your partner happy:
You can find happiness in a relationship by giving it. Find ways to surprise and make your partner happy. Always have conversations that makes your partner happy. Do things that make him/her happy. Read My Post:
How to show Love in a Long Distance Relationship
Sending unexpected gifts, sharing a hobby and understanding your partner’s attitude towards something and reacting in the right way are some of the things you can do to make your partner happy. You will find yourself happy too!
Be positive in a long distance relationship:
Develop positive attitude and opinion about the long distance relationship. Never encourage thoughts or deeds that gives you a negative opinion about the long distance relationship. One example is being suspicious. Never encourage such thoughts. Another thing is that you can get a feel that long distance relationships are hard to cope with.
Some people may give you this attitude or you may get such a thought with a failed example of your friend’s long distance relationship or you might have read it somewhere. Always develop the practice to have positive opinion about both the relationship and your partner.
By maintaining a happy self, you can nourish your long distance relationship and hence have the strength to endure it. Long distance relationship might be a challenge (I think that every relationship is a challenge!) which takes a bit more energy than other relationships, but it is not a thing to mourn.
In fact with a long distance relationship you can get the right balance between the intimacy and space. It can be fun and you can always deal with it at ease. But never let your happiness fade away at any cost.
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That third point about not looking for a temporary replacement kind of leads to that first one about communication getting violated, and if that happens, the long distance relationship is sure to fail. Some pretty solid advice here for those in a long distance relationship!
Glad you liked the points here Grady. Thanks for stopping by!
having a long distant relationship is vary hard for partners because they will not know the different things their partners do. But if you trust your partner every singe day, you will be able to approach reliable ideas to tighten your relationship!
I totally agree. Another point is that when you have been at a LDR for a long time its easy to get complacent, forgetting to listen effectively and appearing as if you dont care about or already know your partner well enough that they dont have to communicate. I like that you included to share you love often. It really helps to have someone who understands this.