Arguments are part of almost all of the relationship issues but they also assist in the development of healthy relationships. Most marriage relationships suffer from this issue. There can be various reasons for arguments between couples.
If you are having a hard time with relationship issues, and especially arguments, don’t let the hard times stay forever. Leaving so will make your relationship fall apart in the long run. Let me tell you some tactics that can restore the happiness and intimacy in your relationship.
OK, now the scene is that you have had an argument with your partner and both of you are either not communicating properly as before, or not communicating at all. And as I said earlier, you can’t let this forever; you guys need to make it up!
Otherwise, as I say in the title you will simply feed your lovely relationship to your conflict. And your relationship will simply fall apart in the long run!
So here ya go.
Take the privilege
Let you be the first to initiate getting back to “normal” communications. Let go of that ego and be the first to call him/her. Be the first to feel sorry for what had happened (sorry doesn’t have to be apologizing), and tell him/her that you would like to set things back.
Don’t wait for your partner to call/visit you, be the first to take the step! This step alone could help you make up, this works in more than 90% of the cases.
I don’t say that you have to feel sorry and beg your partner’s pardon. But a little getting down won’t make you lose anything either. Rather, you would indeed gain happiness in the relationship and your partner’s love.
Go crazy and nifty and buy her/him a surprise gift (need not be expensive at all, especially for women as they don’t count the value but numbers!). A sorry and make up card, or a plain card with some verses of your own, explaining briefly about how you feel will certainly make a difference.
If you don’t want to spend a lot or if you can’t write the word “sorry” or if you can’t think of gifts, a single long stemmed rose will do for women. For men… I guess a kiss should do the trick
If your argument is about you not being so close with your partner or you not spending enough time with him/her, then go annoyingly close. Call him/her often and check how he/she is doing, drop by her in the evenings. But don’t maintain this trend. Use it just for making up and let it fade away later .
Show the RED
Be increasingly passionate and intimate, right from your look. After a fight, even if your partner is not yet ready to talk to you, look at your partner’s eyes with all that passion! Your eyes should tell him/her that you do love him/her and he/she does look a lot sexy.
Sing/play a passionate song when your partner is around. A back/leg massage will do wonders. A lot of touch and hugs (if you have started talking to each other after the fight) will do the magic! Give a surprise hug, leave a little gift in a place with a note as a surprise.
Arrange for a surprising candle light dinner or a surprising date and make your partner attend it. You partner can no longer escape from talking to you.
Fix it, ultimately
After you have made up, in the subsequent days or weeks, try to fix the problem that you were arguing for. Any unfixed issue is more likely to pop up again at a later time. So don’t let all this happen again and again.
Sit together with your partner, and make a relaxed conversation, probably along with a candle light dinner. Revisit the problem and negotiate and fix it. Remember to choose your words and your suggestions (solution) before the conversation and ask to yourself if it is OK to say/suggest so.
How to make up after an argument: Takeaway
If you and your partner are arguing and having a big gap in your relationship, remember you are not alone in this world!
Arguments are always part of any relationship, in some ways they help you to make the bond tighter; as you go on discussing life issues and as you go on making up after an argument, you guys are more likely to get into a deeper understanding.
So don’t worry, things will be alright!
Let me know if you have tried these tactics. Got any questions or comments? Share them in the comments below.