Can you imagine a person who chooses to be alone, not talking or interacting with anyone, not having friends, family, relatives? It is extremely hard even to abstractly think about such a person. No one wants to be alone in this world and everyone seek relationships.
By relationship, I mean any kind of relationship. It might be a love relationship, friendship, blood relation, online relation, neighborhood relation and so on. World is full of relationships. Have you ever thought if there is a purpose for every (any) relationship? What do you think the answer is?
It is Yes!
Of course, there is a purpose for every relationship, which some might mistake for a give-take trade. Well, it is not that way, but there certainly is a purpose. I briefly point out below some of the purposes.
The purpose of most of the relationships mentioned in the list above is love. Why are you in a love relationship? – so that you can experience some love, care, affection from your partner, or parent. You may wish to feel the warmth, their presence and so on.
Most of the times you get addicted to the love, so that you can’t break up such a relationship or you will miss the person a lot, just because of the love.
Apart from experiencing love, you also might want to express your love for your partner. So you are in the love relationship because you could express and experience love.
There are certain kind of relationships for which the whole purpose is (with love, of course) to render emotional support. When you are going through something bad in your life, you will not dare to seek emotional support from everybody you know.
You have a person or more than one chosen for this purpose, to whom you always go for emotional support. You feel that it works only with certain persons/relationships.
Sometimes people maintain certain relationships, that are either started by a moral support or that works best when moral support is needed. If these people are just around, you feel great strength and get the guts to face problems. Such relationships rely mainly on positive thoughts and forward feelings.
OK this goes with all kinds of relationships, I assume. We always want to share things and that’s why we build relationships around us. We have so many things in life that need to be shared – experiences, joy, sorrow, happenings, stories, success, failures and so on. But we choose people and things accordingly, to share.
For example, some share their joy with everyone, but they share their sorrows only with their inner circle of close friends. Some others share their failures with their parents or brothers/sisters, although these are examples, these vary from person to person. Some people may not feel very comfortable to share their failures with parents
Hanging out/time pass/entertainment
There are also certain relationships that are merely meant for entertainment. Nothing wrong with that, you might just want to hang out or pass your leisure time with someone (or a group). You might otherwise not share your very personal experiences with them.
The crux of these purposes is to analyze any relationship and see if you are a “giver” of the purpose. If you are in a relationship, do you expect the other person to fulfill the purpose or do you give it yourself? If you choose to do the second, you will have a great relationship!
The bottom line is “Don’t expect anything in a relationship, rather give what you might expect”.