Communication is the basis of every relationship. A relationship starts with communication which can be verbal, body language, gestures or actions. A relationship goes on with communication and it also ends upon communicating.
Communication is throughout the relationship form start to end (if there is one). In short, communication is the key to a relationship that unlocks, I mean solves, so many problems (however, if not used properly many locks are jammed resulting in a series of no-solution problems).
A couple who communicate effectively can solve most of the problems. More importantly, a couple who communicate constantly are open. They share everything with their partner; they speak out their love, concerns, emotions, joy, success, failures and so on. So it is really bad to not to communicate in a relationship.
Communication gap is a big problem since this will ignite so many issues in due course. What are the reasons that a couple suffer from communication gap?
Lack of involvement
When one or both of the couple have no involvement in the relationship, they don’t care to communicate with their partner. They don’t realize the need to share things of their life with their partner. Persons without involvement in a relationship don’t care to talk and they don’t actually feel that they ‘have’ something to share with their partner.
Communication gap due to busy schedule
A couple who have a busy schedule may either not have the time to communicate even if they wanted to, or they may not feel the need to communicate since there are many other things in their schedule that keeps them occupied.
A person who is very busy with work may also have the chance to have work buddies to share things with so that they won’t have new things to talk about with their partner. Further some won’t like to speak about things repeatedly.
Difference of opinion
When there is difference of opinion, communication will not be so smooth and this also depends on how the couple deal with difference of opinion. Some couple end up in arguing over a difference while some others would want to just be silent when a difference arises. In any case the communication is the victim.
Fear of rejection
Sometimes one or both of the couple have a fear of rejection from the other which hinders them from communicating. One may have the fear that their partner may altogether avoid them or get away from them due to poor communication.
Some may also do not have enough confidence on their communication skill, which again puts them in the fear of rejection. What if I say something that might irritate my partner? What if I could not bring up an issue effectively? What if I upset my partner because of my poor wording? All these questions naturally put one in hesitation towards communication, which leads to a communication gap eventually.
Communication gap due to general problems
General problems can cause communication gaps. When your partner does something that you don’t like, when he/she behaves in a chaotic manner, when he/she is crazy about something, when he/she is so criticizing and so on, it is really hard to establish successful communication.
Also, when there is infidelity in the relationship, a problem where a third person comes in, it is really hard to communicate openly. The cheating partner will have to hide so many things and hence will restrict from communicating to the other.
Similarly a suspicious partner would want to catch the other one without asking explicitly about the cheating sometimes. In some other cases, the couple try to fix an issue by constant communication and then when they are not able to fix it, they ultimately give up and hesitate to talk about such issues in the future.
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Too true, Jane.
Though I’d also love to add here that communication can be quite verbose and still lack effectiveness. By that, I mean, the couple can think they’re communicating well but lack depth as well as honesty and transparency. A bit like talking about the weather instead of things that matter.
That said and as you state in the post, communication is probably the most vital part of any successful relationship.
I’m 30 years old and have been told by a number of women that I’m among the most attractive men they’ve ever laid eyes upon. It may come as a surprise to some who know me that prior to my current girlfriend had never before been involved in a successful relationship.
Truth be told, while she’s as attractive as I am and we’re crazy about each other in many ways, the fact that we communicate honestly and openly is perhaps the primary reason we’re so madly in love just six weeks after we met, and why if she’s still around a year from now she’ll be presented with a very precious stone and a rather big decision…
Thanks for sharing, I agree that the only way for couples to co-exist harmoniously is by keeping communication lines open at all times.
No two people are alike so it’s highly possible for us to have disagreements from time to time. I think that we should learn to acknowledge our differences by addressing our issues and concerns to reach a compromise. Thank you for this enlightening article.
Thanks for sharing wonderful topic.I do agree to the commentators that when it comes in communication, we need to stay connected in order for you to understand each situation.
Communication forms the foundation of every relationship. A couple might have difference in opinion, but to respect individual differences is better rather than imposing thoughts on each other. An effective communication depends upon the comfort level two people share. Little efforts from both ends can help bridging that gap. Thanks for another great post, Jane.
I totally agree with Richa; communication is the key to any successful relationship. A little give and take goes a long way in strenghtening relationships.
Hey Jane,
Communication is the fundamental thing which keeps the spark alive in any relation. But, I agree these days many relationships are on rock because of lack of effective communication. Many problems get an appropriate outcome, if the problem is discussed amongst the individuals, but the hectic schedule these days abstains couples from vocalizing. The reasons you have mentioned for presence of communication gap are so true. Thanks for sharing such a warm post.
Jane-nice post as always. In these hectic times, families do not sit for dinner together-let alone have a real conversation. It is no wonder so many relationships fail. If only one would set aside a few minutes each day for healthy communication.
It’s really true. In a relationship, communication is both the vital and crucial part of a relationship. It is vital because a relationship with no communication is nothing at all and crucial because if mishandled it could either make or break.
Hello Jane, communication is of utmost importance to sustaining any relationship. The moment we feel the need to express our feelings, we must never hesitate to do so. It also pays to evaluate the situation first before making statements that we know we will regret in the end. Thanks!
I really support what Martin said above. It’s not just about communication, it’s about making sure that you\’re communicating right. Usually you’re not lucky to get that in every relationship.
Sometimes your partner will deliberately avoid discussing certain issues or will think you’re making a big deal unnecessarily. But sometimes those are warnings signs.
Imagine you having to find out things about your supposed boyfriend from his Facebook updates. And you ask him why didn’t I know about that? And he tells you but I posted it on Facebook. This actually happened to me recently. And I’m like excuse me?
If your partner is unnecessarily withholding information or creates an argument anytime you try to talk to him about something that bothers you about him, then that’s a sign he’s not really interested. Try to talk to him about it but if things doesn’t change, it might be best to move on before he moves on from you.