Communication is the basis of every relationship. A relationship starts with communication which can be verbal, body language, gestures or actions. A relationship goes on with communication and it also ends upon communicating.
Communication is throughout the relationship form start to end (if there is one). In short, communication is the key to a relationship that unlocks, I mean solves, so many problems (however, if not used properly many locks are jammed resulting in a series of no-solution problems).
A couple who communicate effectively can solve most of the problems. More importantly, a couple who communicate constantly are open. They share everything with their partner; they speak out their love, concerns, emotions, joy, success, failures and so on. So it is really bad to not to communicate in a relationship.
Communication gap is a big problem since this will ignite so many issues in due course. What are the reasons that a couple suffer from communication gap?
Lack of involvement
When one or both of the couple have no involvement in the relationship, they don’t care to communicate with their partner. They don’t realize the need to share things of their life with their partner. Persons without involvement in a relationship don’t care to talk and they don’t actually feel that they ‘have’ something to share with their partner.
Communication gap due to busy schedule
A couple who have a busy schedule may either not have the time to communicate even if they wanted to, or they may not feel the need to communicate since there are many other things in their schedule that keeps them occupied.
A person who is very busy with work may also have the chance to have work buddies to share things with so that they won’t have new things to talk about with their partner. Further some won’t like to speak about things repeatedly.
Difference of opinion
When there is difference of opinion, communication will not be so smooth and this also depends on how the couple deal with difference of opinion. Some couple end up in arguing over a difference while some others would want to just be silent when a difference arises. In any case the communication is the victim.
Fear of rejection
Sometimes one or both of the couple have a fear of rejection from the other which hinders them from communicating. One may have the fear that their partner may altogether avoid them or get away from them due to poor communication.
Some may also do not have enough confidence on their communication skill, which again puts them in the fear of rejection. What if I say something that might irritate my partner? What if I could not bring up an issue effectively? What if I upset my partner because of my poor wording? All these questions naturally put one in hesitation towards communication, which leads to a communication gap eventually.
Communication gap due to general problems
General problems can cause communication gaps. When your partner does something that you don’t like, when he/she behaves in a chaotic manner, when he/she is crazy about something, when he/she is so criticizing and so on, it is really hard to establish successful communication.
Also, when there is infidelity in the relationship, a problem where a third person comes in, it is really hard to communicate openly. The cheating partner will have to hide so many things and hence will restrict from communicating to the other.
Similarly a suspicious partner would want to catch the other one without asking explicitly about the cheating sometimes. In some other cases, the couple try to fix an issue by constant communication and then when they are not able to fix it, they ultimately give up and hesitate to talk about such issues in the future.