Everyone wants to have a smooth relationship. Nobody neither wants to waste time on a hardship, nor waste their energy on a person whom you think is not the right one for you. Moreover, a hard and bitter relationship is a pain in the ass and it can be a hurdle in your self improvement and career achievements.
Here are some tips to have a smooth relationship. If you are already on a smooth relationship, I am sure these tips will help you to improve it.
Tips to maintain a smooth relationship with your partner
1. Mutual respect always is a key thing in any relationship. While you are in private or public, make sure that both of you act in such a way to enhance your partner’s self respect. Respect towards your partner is a great step for a smooth relationship.
2. If you can’t understand any behaviour of your partner, just initiate a conversation and ask him/her why he/she is behaving in such a way or why he/she took such a decision. Don’t assume something for yourself, not only that you might be wrong, but you will also be developing a wrong personality of your partner in your head which is a big hindrance for a smooth relationship.
3. Solve problems as they arise. Do not wait until they pack up to a big bomb and pop up one day to pose a threat to your smooth relationship.
4. Always plan things or take decisions by keeping a long range view in your mind. Do not jump into decisions with what and how you are at the moment. It may become a tough ride rather than a smooth relationship if you jump to impulsive decisions.
5. Be a good listener to your partner. Help him/her to build on skills by giving constant back up and encouragement to build up a smooth relationship. After all, that’s what the word “partner” means, I think.
6. Give equal weight to sex and intimacy. One without the other is useless and waste of time.
7. Never go to bed with a problem unsolved. Always try to resolve things or at least bring some tenderness into the situation before going to bed. When you wake up the next day, you will realize it wasn’t a big deal
8. Be the first to apologize. I am sure this would work wonders to your bond to become a smooth relationship.
9. Freedom is very important in any relationship. Dependency to some degree is good but make sure it does not put your partner into a boundary.Confining your partner to limits is hazardous to your bond, only to find it later that it was baseless stopping you both from a smooth relationship.
10. The last and the most important thing is to choose your partner wisely. You know yourself and your limits. Neither expect an ideal human being nor choose a stupid and suffer. Every person is different and are attracted to others for various reasons. But common sense is a must.
Smooth relationship is not something you cannot achieve.
It is through love,commitment and understanding along with the above simple tips you can make your life with your partner a smooth one.
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Another idealistic post on relationships. I don’t understand why people like to write so much about the ‘ideal’ situations.
I am not saying the above points are incorrect. What I am saying that these are just IDEAListic points, which practically cannot be present at all the time.
Hi Dhakkanz thanks for your comment. Which of these points did you found to be idealistic? I’d love to know. Thanks for stopping by.
Can I disagree with this? Be the first to apologize.
If you do it automatically, then you’re not really sorry, just going thru a script and the other person may expect you’ll always be first to apologize.
Something you want to nip in the bud
Sure you can disagree Anna
The thing is that I’m not insisting on “auto-sorry” mode. But the point here is to not to expect your partner to make up; instead be the first to do the patch! I think that’s more mature.
Jane, unlike the two previous posters, I think this is a great post!
As for it being idealistic, yes, we might not all perfectly live the “ideal”, but if we are doing our best to strive for the ideal, we’ll all be happier.
My favorite point here is the second one. Many problems can be resolved early on simply by starting that conversation when you don’t understand something your partner has done rather than assuming that the partner did something “wrong” or to hurt you. Perhaps the partner saw something or had an understanding that you didn’t have, and in talking about the confusing action, you might understand what it was the partner saw.
Hi Jane! Thanks for sharing the tips you have. I think I will follow it hoping that my relationship will improve for a little bit. Regards to your blog!
Hi Jane! Thanks for your tips. I’ve agreed with most of your tips according to my experiences. But I think your serial no. 10 “to choose your partner wisely” should be No.1.
Haha
Well spotted. That’s right!