There are tons of tips out there about what to do to keep the spark alive in your marriage. But what about what NOT to do in your marriage? With divorce becoming a more regular occurrence, maybe it’s time to look at what we’re doing wrong instead of focusing on all the things we’re doing right. Here are some DO NOTs which you can do to keep your marriage alive and long lasting.
1. Don’t have a TV in the bedroom
I know, I know, a ton of people are gasping in horror right now at the thought of not having a TV in the bedroom. But really, why do you need one there? Your bedroom is supposed to be a sacred place, not one where you’re cheering on your sports teams or watching trashy TV. Your focus is supposed to be on two things in your bedroom: Your partner and sleep. TV just gets in the way of both of those. Marriage relationship should not have too many disturbances too.
2. Don’t Forfeit Sleep to Resolve a Fight
The age-old adage of “don’t go to bed mad” only works sometimes. But if you’re running the risk of staying up all night to fight then it isn’t worth it. I’m not saying go to bed mad all the time, but I am saying that if you’re at a point where neither of you is going to give in, give it a (literal) rest and sleep it off. More often than not, nothing seems nearly as dramatic the next day. And arguing when you’re tired only leads to either giving in just so you can go to sleep or being more determined to prove your point and NOT see the other person’s side.
3. Don’t Give Up What Interests You
Keep your own hobbies! They’re what make you different and likely what interested you in each other in the first place. You don’t want to be a replica of your significant other. While it’s ok (and good!) to take an interest in each other’s hobbies, you still need to have those that define you as an individual, otherwise you risk losing your sense of self.
4.Don’t Stop Dating After Marriage
There comes a time in long-term relationships, especially marriage, where you get comfortable with each other. And I mean really comfortable. It’s around that time that you begin to run the risk of taking each other for granted, which is a pretty solid way to make the other person resentful. One way around this? Don’t stop dating! Get dressed up and go out on an expensive date. Buy little gifts sporadically to remind them that you care, that you think the world of them, that you’re boyfriend-girlfriend for life. And this isn’t just for the husbands out there, wives should do it too!
5.Don’t Stop Talking
This is really easy to do without even realizing it. You come home from work, turn on the TV, eat dinner, and by the time you’re getting ready for bed you haven’t even really spoken to your partner in some superficial conversations. Did you really ask how their day was, and if you did, did you really hear what they had to say? We get so caught up in everyday life sometimes, that we forget that we need to make time for conversations in marriage as well. If you’re not talking, how can your marriage or your relationship ever grow?
Give Time to your marriage
Sometimes we need to take a step back to take a step forward. Make time for your marriage relationship. A marriage relationship is one which needs patience and commitment during every phase of your marriage.Instead of giving up right way, take a look at what changes you can make in your marriage to show your significant other that you don’t just love them, but you really like and love them as a person too. That can make all the difference in your marriage.
Author Bio:
This is a guest post from Laura Backes, she enjoys writing about all kinds of subjects and also topics related to internet service providers in my area. You can reach her at: laurabackes8 @ gmail.com.
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Thanks for the wonderful tips Jane !!
I agree to the things you have shared in not what to do in marriage. Dating is important, these is where you and your partner built good relation. Thanks for the wonderful tips Jane, it is very useful!
One should also give space to each other…don’t be a nagging partner
Hi Jane! I just have to take a moment to tell you how much I love this article. It’s always important to be reminded of the things that we shouldn’t do. My favorite suggestion that you had is #1 Don’t have a TV in the bedroom. It’s funny that you say this because my grandparents have told me the same thing. I agree that the bedroom should not be about watching TV
Thanks so much for another great article. You are awesome!